If you’ve been living in the IDEALIZING pattern, you’ve been fixated on the measurable parts of yourself: your standards, merits, talents, looks, possessions, status, and success. It feels important to be seen as perfect, flawless, and exceptional. If you aren’t, you feel worthless. You get to be proud of what elevates you but terribly ashamed of anything that makes you feel inferior, so you try to hide any inadequacies and weaknesses. This pursuit of perfection keeps you chasing an ideal that never fully materializes, because there’s always something better or greater just out of reach. This painful game of up and down leaves you constantly evaluating, comparing, and picking yourself apart.

You may be in the ABOVE position, frequently mentioning your accomplishments to prove your worth through exceptionalism. Or perhaps you have been in the BELOW position, looking up to those you perceive as ABOVE you, finding worth in your connection to them, while also envying them and feeling inadequate. Or you might flip flop between the ABOVE and BELOW positions.

Emerging from the IDEALIZING pattern means embracing and embodying your real, raw, living, HUMAN self. Giving up the lifelong quest for an ideal image, you learn to pay more attention to your insides—your thoughts, needs, feelings, and experiences–which are infinitely valuable and could never be measured or ranked. When you get off the ladder of up and down, you finally stand eye to eye and heart to heart with all your fellow HUMAN beings. You discover that vulnerability and what connects you with others, rather than what sets you apart, is where true value lies.

In this mini-course you will receive:

• An informative video from Dr. Sam introducing the Idealizing pattern.
• An introduction to the aspect of our true nature that is waiting on the other side of the Idealizing pattern.
• Guided meditations to embody becoming Human.
• Journaling prompts to start you on your journey of transformation.